Learning to be pieces of the puzzle

Welcome to the November 2012 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Family Service Projects

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written about what service means in their families.

My parents took us to every single service project our church did. I hated it. For years, I’d grudgingly attend and complain enough that I’d have to hear my parents lecture me about fortunate we were and that I’d better suck it up and correct my attitude. I was in late elementary school when it suddenly hit me how fortunate I was. My family had been taking fruit to an elderly couple on the North side of town for years. We were there to visit and as I helped the lady move from her recliner so she could lead us to the kitchen, I realized how poor she was. I realized how ill she was. I realized how selfish I had been for years. After that day, I volunteered at the library, the hospital, church, nature center, reading programs… in short, I got over myself and realized that I’m a little piece in a big world, but I can make someone’s day by being kind.

Now, I’m the parent. I have a 3 year old and an 18 month old. I’m starting now with our involvement in service projects. In 2009, I took part of our Christmas budget and decided that for each child we had, we would make a box to send to a child through Operation Christmas Child. My MOPS group collects boxes every year to send to OCC and I am excited to be turning in 2 boxes this year. The kids and I have gone shopping throughout the year and picked out fun little toys, small stuffed animals, hard candy, toothbrushes and underwear. We filled boxes and this week during our art times, we’ll decorate cards to send with the boxes.

We’ve talked about how there are children out there who don’t get to open presents for their birthdays or Christmas. They don’t have big fluffy pillows and even one pair of shoes. Little by little, I see the dawning in my 3 year old’s eyes that there are more people out there besides him. I see him thinking as we talk and I’m looking forward to the day when it’s his idea to do something for another person. I look forward to teaching my children through this simple project to think beyond themselves and learn to be part of something. The world we live in is a giant puzzle of people and space and events… we’re each a part, just which part and whose lives we touch is determined by what we chose to be involved in.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be live and updated by afternoon November 13 with all the carnival links.)

  • Acts of Service: The Great Neighborhood Clean Up — Sarah at Firmly Planted shares how her daughter’s irritation with litter led to eekly cleanups.
  • Running for Charity — Find out how Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction uses her love of running and a great new app to help feed the hungry.
  • 50 Family Friendly Community Service Project Ideas — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares a list of 50 family-friendly community service project ideas that are easy to incorporate to your daily, weekly, monthly, or seasonal rhythmn.
  • Volunteering with a Child — Volunteer work does not need to be put on hold while we raise our children. Jenn of Monkey Butt Junction discusses some creative options for volunteering with a child at Natural Parents Network.
  • Family Service Project: Food Bank of Central and Eastern North Carolina — Erika at Cinco de Mommy volunteers with her children at the Food Bank of Central and Eastern North Carolina, where 29% of the recipients are children.
  • Family Service Learning: Advent Calendar — Lyndsay at ourfeminist{play}school offers her family’s approach to some holiday-related community service by sharing their community focused Advent Calendar. She includes so tips and suggestions for making your own in time for this year’s holidays.
  • How to make street crossing flags as a family service project — Lauren at Hobo Mama offers a tutorial for an easy and relatively kid-friendly project that will engage young pedestrians.
  • Pieces of the Puzzle — Because of an experience Laura from Pug in the Kitchen had as a child, she’s excited to show her children how they can reach out to others and be a blessing.
  • Appalachian Bear Rescue — Erica at ChildOrganics shares how saving pennies, acorns and hickory nuts go a long way in helping rescue orphaned and injured black bears.
  • Volunteering to Burnout and Back — Jorje of Momma Jorje has volunteered to the point of burnout and back again… but how to involve little ones in giving back?
  • How to Help Your Kids Develop Compassion through Service Projects — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares service projects her family has done along with links to lots of resources for service projects you can do with your children.
  • Involving Young Children in Service — Leanna at All Done Monkey, the mother of a toddler, reflects on how to make service a joyful experience for young children.
  • A Letter to My Mama — Dionna at Code Name: Mama has dedicated her life to service, just like her own mama. Today Dionna is thanking her mother for so richly blessing her.
  • 5 Ways to Serve Others When You Have Small Children — It can be tough to volunteer with young children. Jennifer at Our Muddy Boots shares how her family looks for opportunities to serve in every day life.
  • When Giving It Away Is Too Hard for Mommy — Jade at Looking Through Jade Glass But Dimly lets her children choose the charity for the family but struggles when her children’s generosity extends to giving away treasured keepsakes.
  • Community Service Through Everyday Compassion — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children calls us to Community Service Through Everyday Compassion; sometimes it is the small things we can do everyday that make the greater impacts.
  • School Bags and Glad RagsAlt Family are trying to spread a little love this Christmas time by involving the kids in a bit of charity giving.
  • Children in (Volunteering) Service — Luschka at Diary of a First Child reminisces on her own experiences of volunteering as a child, reflects on what she thinks volunteering teaches children and how she hopes voluntary service will impact on her own children.

 

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  11. Erica

    I feel like I am now lecturing my kids on how fortunate they are to have food, shelter, etc.. I think I just did it today when they didn’t finish their lunch and then asked for a snack. I hope leading my daughter on different service projects will touch her heart the same as it has yours. Thanks for sharing.

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  12. Leanna @ Alldonemonkey

    What a beautiful post! It is such a fine balance between involving our kids and pushing them in the opposite direction. Sounds like you have definitely found the right balance for your family! Thank you for sharing.

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  13. Deb @ Living Montessori Now

    I love your concept of pieces of the puzzle. It was wonderful to read how your parents’ service had such an affect on you. What you’re doing with your own children is awesome… what a perfect time for them to start participating in service projects! :)

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  14. Momma Jorje

    What a beautiful post! My eldest daughter has participated in the box project. Our GS troop put some boxes together. I like to include a wind-up flash light. Fun for kids AND practical!

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