Sibling support, even in the potty!

Welcome to the August 2013 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Sibling Revelry

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written about siblings – their own, their hopes for their kids, and more. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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My children are 21 months apart in age. I figured this would be helpful in bonding them… the jealousy would be limited and they wouldn’t remember a time without one another. But then, Liam was NOT interested in Sylvia. As in, didn’t want to talk about the coming baby. Didn’t care about her arrival. Didn’t want to hold her – didn’t even want to sit next to her in photos! When you are sleep deprived and hormonal, you worry.

Two years have passed since then. My worries about them bonding are far from my mind. They’ve gotten along well for the most part, outside of the occasional sibling spat. They bicker like any other set of siblings, they roughhouse, they laugh.

But the best thing to me, is watching Liam encourage Sylvia. The most recent example of this is Sylvia’s learning to use the potty. Sylvia made the decision to rid herself of diapers when I wasn’t mentally prepared. But Liam was ready. The first time she peed in the potty, he was the one to tell me. For weeks after, every time she peed in the potty, he lead us in cheering and hugging and encouraging. The first time she pooped in the potty, he was sitting in the bathroom with her.

It’s only been a year since he informed me he wouldn’t wear diapers anymore; it’s only been a year since we all sat in the bathroom cheering for him. Because they have been so close in age, they’ve learned to support each other and I couldn’t be prouder. I’m looking forward to watching their dynamic adapt as Liam starts school and soccer next week… they will continue to have opportunities to develop their own persons, but still be an integral part of each other’s support!

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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be live and updated by afternoon August 13 with all the carnival links.)

  • The Damage of Comparing Siblings — Comparing siblings can lead to hurt feelings and poor relationships. What Jana Falls has learned and why she hopes for more for her son.
  • Connecting Through Sibling Rivalry — With four children who are spaced so that each child grows up in a pair, Destany at They are All of Me shares her method for minimizing the competition so her children can focus on bonding, rather than besting each other.
  • Sibling Revelry — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud shares the two-week transition that happens every summer as her kids transform from bickering to learning how to play.
  • Baby Brother born from an OceanAbby Jaramillo describes how her toddler connects in a possibly mystical way with her new baby brother and his birth at home, and Abby draws parallels with her own sister’s new baby.
  • Hard, But Worth It — Claire at The Adventures of Lactating Girl discusses how difficult having two children can be, but how it’s definitely worth it.
  • Raising Attached Siblings — At Living Peacefully with Children, Mandy and her husband are making conscious choices about how they raise their children to foster sibling connection and attachment.
  • It’s Complicated — Henrietta at Angel Wings and Herb Tea reflects on how life’s twists and turns have taken her from a childhood with no siblings to a constantly changing family life with five children, including one in spirit.
  • Supportsustainablemum reflects on how the differences between her relationship with her siblings and her husband’s have affected their family and at a time of need.
  • Peas in a Pod — Kellie at Our Mindful Life enjoys the special relationship her oldest two children share.
  • Lessening the competitive enviornment in the homeLisa at The Squishable Baby discusses how downplaying competition in the home has led to cooperation, not competition.
  • The complex and wonderful world of siblings — Lauren at Hobo Mamareflects on her choices to have not too many children, spaced far apart — and how that’s maybe limited how close their sibling relationship can be.
  • 5 Ways to Help Young Siblings Have a Loving Relationship — Charise I Thought I Knew Mama shares the strategies that help her three year old and 14 month old have a somewhat beautiful relationship and aid in keeping peace in their home.
  • 4 Steps to Encourage Sibling Revelry, even in Hot Moments of Rivalry — Sheila Pai of A Living Family share 4 Steps she uses to shift hot moments of sibling rivalry towards connected moments of sibling revelry and human compassion.
  • Twins Are Fun — Mercedes at Project Procrastinot witnesses the development of her twins’ sibling bond.
  • Growing Up Together- Sibling Revelry in Our House — Amy at Me, Mothering, and Making it All Work realizes that there is great utility in raising siblings that are close in age, and is grateful to have been blessed with healthy siblings that both love and challenge one another every day.
  • Top 5 Ways to Reduce Sibling Rivalry — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares ideas that helped her two children be best friends along with Montessori resources for peace education and conflict resolution.
  • Sibling Uncertainty — Alisha at Cinnamon and Sassafras wonders how her children’s relationship will change now that the baby is mobile.
  • Living with the Longing — Rachael at The Variegated Life sees that she can live with her longing for another — without changing her plans.
  • For My One and Only DaughterPlaying for Peace mommy reflects on her choice to not have more children in order to focus on other dreams.
  • Siblings: A Crash Course in Relationship Training — How have your siblings prepared you for later relationships? One of Dionna at Code Name: Mama’s top priorities as mama of siblings is to help them learn how to navigate relationships.
  • The Joys of Siblings: An Inside Joke — Ana at Panda & Ananaso shares the a glimpse into the joys of having siblings through sharing a perplexing yet hilarious inside joke betwixt her and her own.
  • Sibling Support, even in the potty! — Even though Laura at Pug in the Kitchen‘s children didn’t start out best friends, they are joined at the hip these days, including cheering each other on with potty successes!
  • Don’t Seek What Isn’t There – On Sibling Jealousy — Laura from Authentic Parenting analyzes the seeming desire people harbor for seeking out hints of sibling jealousy.

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  7. Lisa Nelson

    Very cute Laura. It’s very important that siblings grow up to be close. They have each other and take care of each other.

    So important.

    Thanks for this great post!

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  9. Kellie

    How fun! We have been doing potty learning this summer too, and my older two kids have been so happy with Elliott! The best was last week, when Walter (5) ran in to pee while Elliott (2) and I were brushing our teeth. We only have one bathroom, so we were all crowded in together. Walter was standing on one side of the potty and Elliott was on the other already. Walter started going, Elliott watched a moment, then lifted his shirt and peed from the other side! It was so funny, I couldn’t stop laughing for the longest time! It is so fun to see how they end up working together, isn’t it?!

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